Learning To Like Blueberries

It’s easy to throw in the teetotal towel in the early days of alcohol-free living because it takes a while to adjust to a new way of being. Human beings are incredibly adaptable but we do need a bit of time to get used to a different pace of life. Binge drinking tends to bring with it a chaotic existence and despite the alcohol-induced dramas being destructive and upsetting and something most people are desperate to leave behind, ‘normal’ life can seem a little slow in comparison when you finally put down the bottle.


This picture is of my 11-month-old, Lily Jean. She is just learning to eat finger foods and is not (how shall I put this?) approaching the new meal format with enthusiasm. It would be hasty and somewhat ridiculous of me to assume that on the basis of how she handled her fruit selection today (alternating between throwing it at the dog whilst giggling maniacally and staring at it as though I had scraped it off my shoe prior to serving it up) she will never enjoy eating finger foods.

However, after years of heavy drinking, it can feel as though we will never adjust to a new, sober and non-dramatic lifestyle and many of us decide to return to old (and problematic) habits before we have given ourselves a real chance to change.

If you have recently become a non-drinker, try to ride those tempting storms of alcohol cravings and remind yourself that you will eventually adapt to, and enjoy, life without alcohol. It might just take a while longer than you had initially hoped…


10 thoughts on “Learning To Like Blueberries

  1. Love the pic! I remember those days of more food on the floor than on the table or even in my son’s stomach. Yikes!

    But I love the simple yet powerful message – change is difficult for people in general, and for alcoholics…wow. We definitely don’t like change, and yet we *crave* it…especially when we know that drinking no longer works for us, but yet don’t know what to do. I knew for years I had to change, that I had to stop drinking, but it was the only life I knew, this drinking life. I had no other skills or points of view to effect change in my life. It wasn’t until I was completely broken, desperate and mangled that I was able to start making the changes…and it wasn’t an easy transition – detox then treatment. But I knew I was ready. I knew it was time. And even then, with all my willingness, I still had a bit of a rollercoaster ride in adjusting.

    But it happened – I had a new life. I had a way of coping without the booze. And it’s a wonderful journey.

    Great post 🙂


    • Hi Paul, thank you. Change is a very scary thing, largely because we cannot see what lies around the corner when we are on the verge of a new life. The denial and tricks that our alcohol-dependent mind plays on us are very convincing and lead us to believe that we would be better off sticking with the booze. But that leap of faith is well worth taking – I’m so pleased that you and everyone else who has succeeded in beating an alcohol dependency managed to take that step, stick with it and eventually emerge out of the other side. What a brighter life there is for those who can keep motivated enough to follow it all the way!

      Thanks for your comment, Lucy x

  2. Lou says:

    I am on day 4. I finally hit rock bottom on Friday. With the help of Jason Vale and Soberistas I am on track. I know it will not be an easy path but I want to be sober more than I want that first drink. I am in the process of reading back through your blog and I like the idea of visualising through to the end of the night of the first drink. That takes me to a dark place that I don’t want to go any more.

    Thank you Lucy for helping me see the light.

    Lou x

    • Hi Lou, thanks for your comment. It really means a lot that you are finding my blogs and Soberistas helpful. I hope you are feeling ok today, and looking forward to a great new way of living that doesn’t involve alcohol. For anyone reading this who is considering giving up alcohol, I can honestly say it was the best decision I ever made, by a long shot.
      Keep on track, and keep in touch. Lucy x

  3. Another great blog Lucy!! I wholeheartedly agree, it’s definately worth sticking with and getting used to living your new life … and believe me, anybody who is thinking about getting sober … it’s a completely new life and also a much better and a very lovely one. I can honestly say that after just 5 months of living a sober life, staying away from that first drink has now become very easy for me … it’s definately that first one that does the damage as I could never stop at “just the one”.

    Susan xx

    • Susan! Great to hear from you – so pleased that you are doing great and now on your 6th month – brilliant! It is a completely new way of living isn’t it, but so much better and happier. Thanks for your comment and stay in touch won’t you? Lots of love, Lucy x

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